‘Stark Reality in the Cold Light of Day’ Self Portrait Drawing

‘Stark reality in the cold light of day’
To be honest I had this whole massive text written for what I wanted to say about this drawing. I needed to release and let go at long last. But I realised that it will change nothing. It is such a very personal drawing, capturing a moment in time so significant in my life. The moment I finally realised the extent and the enormity of the negative effect a horribly toxic person had on me all those years ago, and begin to face it.
What I will say about it is this.
When someone is extremely selfish and insecure, and they come across someone who is unconfident and full of self doubt and in some cases very young and naïve, it can be a perfect storm for them to be able to control, manipulate and emotionally blackmail them to the point that they are so confused they don’t even know if it is really happening or if it is all in their head.
If anyone reading this is suffering from any kind of psychological abuse, I would like you to know that you are not going mad, and it is not your fault. I read two quotes online years after I managed to escape from this toxic person, and it all made a lot more sense to me. I am not sure who wrote them, but I would like to share these with you:
‘If someone treats you badly, just remember that there is something wrong with them, not you. Normal people don’t go around destroying other human beings’
‘When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how other people see you. This misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth, just like you did.’
I hope this helps in some way, and there are always better days ahead when you find the strength and courage inside yourself to stand tall.

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